We unconditionally love our kids. If they screw up or kill someone, we still love them. While you may not like or agree with what your husband is doing, why do we not love our husband the same way?

A phrase created by Laurie McDermott and first used in 2020, represents one of her main teachings. It describes the emotional conflict experienced by betrayed spouses as they reconcile the challenge of extending the same unconditional love toward their husband that they so easily and naturally give to their children, even in times of disappointment, conflict, or wrongdoing.